SCHULAMIE AHN -05/02/25
The Fiancé Journey: Navigating the Wedding Planning Phase
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"I’ve finally got the ring. Now we get to the fun part…the wedding planning!” Now this might not be everyone’s response, but I admit, this is mine. The planning of the wedding happens to be one of my favorite parts of this whole fiance journey. Finally–all those saved pins can have purpose now. My endless scrolls of TikTok and Instagram videos will be put to use. I can start using the cricut machine I borrowed from my friend last summer. It’s finally time. …And that’s what this process is about. It’s about enjoying this season. It’s about getting to be creative and imagine what your day will look and feel like. So before you start freaking out about planning, let’s start with a few simple rules that will guide you through this beginning portion.
The Planning Personalities.
The Planner vs. the Free Spirit. One of the unexpected things about getting engaged? You find out who you both really are when it comes to planning. Some people break out the spreadsheets the day after the proposal, already comparing catering quotes and locking in Pinterest boards. Others? They're basking in the moment, maybe still staring at the ring and thinking, "We’ve got time, right?" And this isn’t always what couples expect. The person you thought would be laid-back is suddenly obsessed with napkin folds. Or the partner you thought was Type A is like, “Let’s just vibe and see what happens.” It’s not a bad thing—it’s just real. And sometimes, it can cause a little friction.
You don’t have to have the same planning style.
What matters is:
Communicating early about what matters most to each of you. Assigning roles based on your strengths (someone loves florals, someone’s good with money—run with that).
Check in weekly to make sure it still feels like a team effort, not a solo mission. You’re not just planning an event—you’re learning how to make decisions together. It’s training for life.
Find Help
If the logistics start causing stress, or you’re getting lost in details that don't bring you joy—it might be time to bring in help.
Full-service planner: Great if you’re short on time or want pro-level design and logistics.
Day-of coordinator: Ideal if you’ve planned most things but want to actually enjoy your wedding day without answering vendor texts in your gown or suit.
Even a one-time consultation with a planner can help clarify your vision.
HIDDENSPACE Couple Advice from Kristine + Liam
One of our couples from our Tying the Knot series—where we celebrate HIDDENSPACE love stories—shared a piece of advice that’s stuck with us:
“Have a weekly check-in! You’ll both grow and evolve—as individuals and as partners—so it’s important to regularly touch base. Talk about how you're feeling, what matters to you right now, what you see for the future. Before we got married, we attended a Gottman Institute workshop and it was incredibly helpful. We still try to follow their ‘State of the Union’ meeting format as often as we can.”
It's a beautiful reminder that relationships aren’t static—they’re living things. And staying in sync takes intention.
Closing Thought: It’s Still About Love
Remember: the wedding is one day, but the journey is forever. The ring is a daily reminder of that promise—so let it ground you when things feel chaotic.
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